Do you lie to yourself? or Are you ignoring looking at the truth because it is too painful?
We have all been there. It’s called the socialization part of you meets your rational mind and together they try to figure out WHY this thing is happening to you.
The socialization part says “hide”—Hide your feelings, Hide your thoughts, Hide your tears. In public smile and act as if everything is perfect.
And the rationale mind acting like a computer repeats the same behavior you have done in the past. It does not understand or listen to the subtle gut feeling saying “I don’t like this and I don’t want to do it anymore. Now get me out of here.”
Your rational mind says, “I’m In a Rut.”
Here is a real life example from a client of mine during a counseling session.
Why does he treat me like that? What is going on? Why do I keep repeating the same bad behavior? My client said as she looked at me inquisitively.
“Your subconscious already knows what you need to do about the bad boyfriend situation— you stated it right here in the questionnaire–“He is so much like my father,” I said.
The ah ha moment had arrived. Her eyes widened, her attention was riveted on me. “Yeah, that is right. That’s what I am feeling.”
Listen to Your Own Truth
As Allan Hardman says in his article, On Telling Ourselves the Truth, “Have you ever thought about how much we lie to ourselves. Think about it! How many times do you talk yourself out of what you’re feeling because your truth might hurt somebody?”
“We are well programmed from our childhood “domestication” to lie to ourselves. And to each other. …It is more like we fool ourselves. Don’t pretend to like some people more that you really do? Don’t pretend to like yourself more that you really do,” Hardman says.
For your life is controlled by your soul. Your experiences are for your own personal journey. Denying your feeling of being finished with an activity or a person or a personal behavior only keeps you locked in the situation you are trying to change and will only cause more confusion and suffering and distance yourself from your objective and the peace your soul seeks.
Help is only around the corner— have an honest talk with yourself and you will see the truth.
Find your voice — Listen to your Inner Truth
Amber DeAnn, Life Coach — [email protected].
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