HAVE YOU NOTICED HOW YOU REACT WHEN OTHERS ARE TAKING THEIR ANGER OUT ON YOU?
You vent back at someone else— you yell, scream at your spouse, mom, kids. Hitting and beating are other types of anger.
Gossiping, talking or thinking nasty, hurtful stuff about another person are forms of jealousy – which is anger in another form. You can blame someone else for your feelings of anger.
We think if we explode and get our frustrations off our chest it will be over. But anger hurts the other person. It feels like darts to the other person. It can cause resentment for years, poisoning your present and future relationships.
It feels heavy, tense and strangulating on you also.
Then there is the internal anger.
It grows from an act we have done or from some personal decision or some spontaneous behavior that doesn’t meet our needs. It can become embedded in us as shame or guilt. It can shift from “I am angry at Mom,” to “I’m such a fool to believe what she said about me.”
Or “I’m angry at that salesman who talked me into buying this thing I really don’t need,” to “I’m stupid. I’m lazy for not doing my homework before I sat down with the salesman. I’m an idiot for believing his statement. I’m such a loser. I can’t do anything right, I can’t make wise decisions.” You get the idea.
BELITTLING YOURSELF
This type of anger bashing, cuts your self-respect to shreds, lowers your identity and tarnishes our self image. You can even start believing the bashing & ridicule you are saying about yourself. You can feel worthless and unimportant and soon your life will mirror your statements.
Soon you will feel and act stupid in many situations. You won’t do your homework before making financial decisions. You will believe con men, etc. You will, in essence, sabotage yourself, or kill your business, or your marriage or sour your relationship with your kids.
Your thoughts will create the kind of life you are trying to escape from.
This self-dialogue also has severe consequences on your health. Negative emotions like this are one of the leading contributors to cancer and tons of other terminal diseases.
Purchase A Coaching Session – Pull Out Of Anger
COPING WITH ANGER AND COPING WITH DEPRESSION
Let’s take a look at your anger situation. Take the following quiz and then think about those situations where you have belittled yourself when you were angry.
- Do you yell at your kids for doing small misbehaviors?
- Do you feel uptight, irritated? Do you fell like screaming or hitting someone?
- Do you say nasty, hurtful things to others when you are angry?
- Do you have a fiery temper?
- Do you know what you are angry about?
- Are you upset about your behavior?
- Are you upset about your kid’s behavior?
- Are you upset about your spouse’s behavior or another family member?
- Are you afraid you will not have a future?
- Do you feel annoyed when you’re not given recognition & accolades for doing good work?
Now focus on the stiff, sore, and uncomfortable parts of your body —
How does your wrists and ankles feel? Stiff?
Are your neck and back tight?
Do you have a pain or heavy feeling in your stomach?
They are all a message for you—
“Stop the self imposed stress.”
“You are making me sick and I can’t function when I am sick”
We’ve all been angry and we’ve all used it destructively to harm ourselves and others.
We can change that.
How does our anger affect our behavior?
Let’s take a new look at it.
- What if anger were really a messenger?
- How can I discover the message in the anger?
The Truth About Anger
Anger is a message and we can learn how to decode the message and use it wisely in our lives. Anger can be released from the body and from your psyche. It just takes a strong intention, a change of viewpoint, and some energy releasing sessions.
Once we redirect this powerful energy in a session, you can get what you want a little easier, and create harmonious relationships along the way.
Both my one on one/group sessions will enable you to:
- Listen to messages in your anger
- Melt resistance to dealing with your anger
- Shift your mindset to transform the energy in your anger
- Discover ways to use this transformed energy to meet your goals
- Create a new vision of you without anger
Let’s Look at Some Examples
You are angry at your mom because she doesn’t like your boyfriend. Maybe she feels the boyfriend would demean you and embroil you in a life of struggle or physical pain, but you can’t see this.
Check It Out
Does he make you feel unimportant and lower your self esteem? Maybe that is his purpose. Maybe he is in your life to show you that you are demeaning yourself. What are you going to do about it?
Another Example
You marry a woman who acts and talks just like your mom. She is critical, sharp tongued, belittling, backstabbing, and impatient. But you married her because this behavior was familiar to you. It reminded you of home.
Maybe you now feel that you don’t want to be in this low vibration energy any more. You get angry with her now for saying the same things she has said for years. You are feeling that you deserve something better. What are you going to do about it?
This anger energy can be used to give you courage and strength to resolve personal conflict in a harmonious way that will benefit you and the other person. You just have to transmute it. I help you with this in every personal or group session.
You can save the relationship and resolve the conflict.
Contact me and let’s talk about your situation.
“Today I had a wonderful visit with my daughter. She had been critical of me, saying very harsh words. But now she is trying to help me. It made me cry. I am unusually relaxed (now after the session) & the pain in my arms is much lower. I’m feeling more normal now. Thanks for the session.”
~ Paula W.
“I have been fired up about my family drama for about a year now. I used to get a know in my stomach and outright rage. But since our session, I can now read an email from my mom or my sister and have no physical sensation at all. Stress is just gone. Thanks Amber.”
~ Meg
Find yourself again and live your NEW FULFILLED
LIFE.
Amber DeAnn
#innergameamber