UPSIDE and DOWNSIDE OF FEAR/ANXIETY
Yes, fear is a prehistoric, innate survival instinct in all humans. We need it in certain life-threatening conditions ie car accidents, violence, being around dangerous people or facing death. But it can very easily get out of control and run our lives.
It can paralyze us to lose our courage, weaken our life force, abandon our dreams, and ignore our needs and desires. We can use it as excuse not to do something, or pursue a life goal, or fulfill a dream, or assist us in build a better us.
Anxiety
And staying locked in fear will create an anxious mindset that sees trouble, danger, and life threatening situations even where there are non. It will become a constant, relentless discomfort/frustration with life and our ability to handle it. It will wear down our nerves, push us into defending ourselves and our point of view and initiate a war with our family and friends. —-(think Covid and vaccinations)
ANXIETY & FEAR ARE RELATED. Fear is your thoughts and feelings of losing your life or something dear to your. Anxiety is your apprehension of being in fear. It is fear of fear.
EXPLORE YOUR ANXIETY QUIZ
Pick a certain frustrating experience in your life. Turn on your awareness of how this feels in your body. Then take this quiz.
I feel jumpy.
I feel irritated
I feel like something bad is about to happen.
I feel like I’m missing out on something in life.
I feel like I can’t move fast enough to get up with the pace of life or the life goals that I have set for myself.
I am eating faster than I ever did to make up for time.
I can’t sleep as well as I want too.
I move fast, even run, through my life to keep up with my daily activities.
My anxiety started with __________________ experience.
I have no time for the fun things in life.
I yearn to do more than I can get done in a day.
I yearn to be more, to be bigger, more expansive with my life.
I yearn to get off the stressful life merry-go-round.
I want to settle down and enjoy each day and not worry about deadlines.
Inhale, blow out some stress, then review your answers.
Ask yourself —
How often do you feel these sensations in a day, or a week?
For most of us it is a lot.
Are you trying to change the past or the future?
Focus on a scary life experience and take the following quiz:
EXPLORING YOUR FEAR QUIZ —
Do you hate conflict with your family or friends?
Do you hate arguments, yelling, screaming, and fights?
Are you a highly sensitive person?
Do you hide or avoid certain types of people? situations?
Are you upset with yourself for not being more organized, or more courageous?
Have your been afraid of trying new activities or asking for a raise or promotion?
Has someone offended or abused you emotionally or physically lately and you can’t speak up to them?
Do you seek freedom from the shy, quiet, protective part of you?
Do you seek adventure, new experiences, or travel but are afraid to jump it and enjoy?
Are you afraid of asking an authority figure for something ie attention to your health needs, or your sick child, or a refund, or an apology, or stopping an abusive behavior?
LIVING IN ANXIETY AND FEAR WILL NOT WORK IN TODAY’S WORLD
Today we have many stressors (government, economy, work, inflation, educating our children…) arising in our faces every day. We can’t run and hide. We need to find our courage and solve the world’s problems and that will require courage.
Life should be about having an adventure exploring our talents, experimenting with our ideas and creating some new art, new book, or a new organization that will benefit humanity.
LOOKING AT YOUR FEAR/ANXIETY IN A NEW WAY
Look at your FEAR as a warning sign on car’s dashboard. But let’s reverse the meaning.
What if you see the message as “Last time I tried to talk to my boss about a raise, I was embarrassed and awkward. Today I will try a new technique. I will use a new strategy and I will win.”
Or “Last time I tried to re decorate the bedroom I did not a clear plan I was overwhelmed. Today I will create a different plan and succeed. “
Or Last time I had to give a speech I was nervous and tongue tied, today I’m focused and passionate.”
Then notice how good it feels to have this new freedom from the past, from the fear of doing a certain activity. Notice how good it feels to have some self wisdom about how to change to accomplish your objectives and how to create inner courage. It will surprise & please you intently. Go for it.
Our sessions will teach you how to:
- Listen to the message in your fear.
- Melt resistance to dealing with your fear.
- Let your mind lovingly embrace your fear.
- Retrain the fear energy to be a useful sentry.
- Create a new vision of you without fear.
Ready for some courage and joy in your life.
